When we try to siege people they tend to not actually fight back and pull lame tactics or just don't show up. Unlike people we siege, when we get sieged we try and fight over the hamlet. If people would actually give a fight/siege stones not so easily destroyed I'd drop more sieges. Until then I don't care to drop and waste 30 peoples time. Also, playing to crush has always turned into server wars which in turn makes 50% of the server quit once they lose.